Where have the men gone?

Just in my lifetime, what has shifted with culture has been alarming. We are in the middle of a pandemic with Covid cases increasing in drastic numbers, Christians can’t get along with one another, social media bullies are everywhere, and men are becoming girls. There… I said it.

I see pastors on social media and men on social media completely disguised as women… ok, maybe not fully disguised, but it is really hard to tell the difference anymore! Let me explain:

As my wife says, a woman wants a man to be a man. A man is a protector and provider for the family. A man usually wants a feminine woman. Not one that can lift more weights than them. I know there are cases that are otherwise, to each their own I suppose. Today, men hide behind their women instead of stepping up and “being the man” by leading their families and protecting their families. Men dress like, do their hair like and attempt to have their appearance looking more feminine than masculine.

What I am alarmed at today is how men are constantly trying to gain followers on social media, are easily offended at every little thing said or posted and sitting back while their wives lead while they polish their nails. WHAT?

Maybe I am too country in my upbringing, but I am having a hard time with “men” trying to do what women do and look like women in their dress and action. I am not saying that women are always easily offended, don’t get me wrong, but what I am saying is that it is really hard to tell anymore the Biblical role that each should fulfill because men and women are all doing and looking the same.

We weren’t created to fulfill the same roles.

This in itself I believe has caused so much of the disfunction that we see in families today. Young men growing up not knowing how to lead their family because there was no example of that from their father. Young girls growing up not knowing how to be nurturers and godly wives and mothers because their mothers had to be everything because the dad was too busy playing Xbox or debating on facebook about things that will never really matter. And the opposite is true…

In a healthy home, young girls will admire and look for a husband that resembles the sacrifice and protection that their fathers gave them and young men will look for women who loved and nurtured like their mother did.

Before anyone accuses me of being backwoods sexist, let me just say that there are no doubt exceptions to the rule. I am not saying that single parents are inadequate because there is no spouse to fulfill the role that a single parent has to fulfill. What I am saying is that if there is a family structure and there is a mom and dad in the home, dad shouldn’t be shopping in the same clothing store as mom.

We need to get the family back to God-honoring and God-seeking. Men, take your family to church! Women, go to church even if he won’t. Eventually he will. Men, set the bar high for your sons and daughters. Women, nurture, lead and love your family with all that you are because deep down, that is how you are made by your Creator. Men, show your sons how to change a flat tire and check the oil. Take your sons to a sporting event. Go shoot a gun. Instill in your sons the heart for providing and protecting. Get up and go to work!

Finally, men, pastors, and other male figures, please stop filling up social media with your continued obsession to be famous and noticed. Save us all the heartache and confusion please.

Lead. Serve. Protect. Man Up!

If you are offended or don’t like this post, you can easily close the page and carry on with your day.

Be blessed! 🙂

2 thoughts on “Where have the men gone?

  1. Kathy M Xenos August 10, 2021 / 3:27 pm

    Amen Pastor

  2. Paul Kucharski August 10, 2021 / 3:45 pm

    On point! Thank you Eric! Mentoring and guiding was diminishing even before the social media days. Responsible training gave way to freedom of choice. You may catch flak for being sincerely honest and caring. It does not make it any less right. May we be brave and constantly exhort each other.

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