Honor…

Romans 12:10 10Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

1 Timothy 5:17 17The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching.

Proverbs 15:33 33 The fear of the LORD teaches a man wisdom, and humility comes before honor.

Proverbs 13:18 18 He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored.

1 Thessalonians 5:12 12Now we ask you, brothers, to respect those who work hard among you, who are over you in the Lord and who admonish you.

Honor // Respect… these two attributes and character behavior is missing more in this society I believe than any other. The church is not exempt.

Ask yourself just a moment on the heels of Romans 12:10, do you honor others above yourself? Absolutely you may say, but let me put some things in perspective…

If you are an employee and your employer assigns you a task, no matter how insignificant you think it may be, do you diligently work to accomplish that task or do you “just happen to forget” or not give the attention it deserves because of your own agenda?

Do you honor those who are older than you even though you don’t really like them or you have major disagreements with what they believe or how they live and you talk about them and gossip and slander them because of your disagreement?

Integrity of an individual I believe is molded by the discipline of honoring. If you honor and respect, you will naturally develop the mindset and life-style of integrity.

I am writing this blog or note today for several reasons… being that I have owned my own business, served in law-enforcement, managed a financial institution, and currently pastor a church, I have come to the conclusion that the whole “entitlement” mindset and lack of honor is just as present in the church as it is outside the church and this is alarming!!!!!

What ever happened to “yes maam”, “yes sir”, following through with what we say we will do and completing assigned tasks as they have been given out?

Tell me… I would like to know!!! I am more disappointed today because of this one thing I think than anything else.

There have been several times I have blessed my employees with an unexpected bonus on their checks, lunch, tools to assist them in their endeavors, whatever, with absolutely no thought of “thank you!”, “I appreciate that very much!”… ANYTHING! It makes you not want to do anything extra for them…

The whole mindset of “entitlement” has taken over where people believe and feel they are entitled to everything and anything because they are the answer to the world or to your organization or whatever, and it is in the church and it stinks!

No, I am not on a tangent, I am just being honest and discussing things that too many people wont dare begin talking about. Employers are shying away from mentoring and disciplining their employees, pastors prostitute for the sake of convenience and money, government officials sell out to the political popularity contest for the sake of getting reelected instead of standing in integrity and honoring GOD HIMSELF with the obedience of where HE has placed them!

Proverbs 13:18 talks about heeding correction and being honored… people today get mad, leave your church, quit their jobs, gossip and slander you, kick their dogs (ok, maybe that was too far), just because they get “corrected” or disciplined because they feel they are getting dishonored when the Scripture states that honor will be given if you receive the correction…!!! We have things backwards, especially in America. ESPECIALLY IN THE CHURCH! Even if we disagree, you can still honor and show respect.

God knows what He is doing. Authority is for protection and covering. If you are under good solid authority, there is safety and security in that if you honor and respect it. Each time you don’t, you punch a hole in that protective covering and allow leaks to enter and eventually if you don’t correct it, you will be all washed up simply because you didn’t obey The Word.

I have certain mentors in my life that I allow to speak into me and sometimes, I have to tell you, it hurts! It is not always happy happy! But I desire that sharpening and correction if it means promotion and honor returned! I also show honor and respect regardless if I agree or not. Many times I may disagree in the moment, but can look back and realize how right they may have been even before it “clicked” with me!

In closing this novel on honor, my prayer and desire is that after reading this, you will be challenged to show honor and appreciation and respect to those who protect you and even those you don’t know… it is the right thing to do and the bible talks about an HONORS REWARD.

He will REWARD those who not only honor HIM, but honor those around them as they are examples and testimonies of God Himself.

We can start by changing this city and region by starting a movement of honor, integrity and respect that is almost non-existent anymore in our society…

Begin where you are and watch the Rewards and Favor from God flow into your life!

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2 thoughts on “Honor…

  1. PE,

    I think you are right on with this.

    * I think people have lost some sense of honor due to society trends. Its on TV, Music, Politics, etc… you could build a list.

    * I also notice more poeple are more introverted and tend to shy from any form of up front communication. This could also be a developmental trend of technology and the techno gadget era of communication.

    * I believe in any society strong role models at an early age, build the internal discipline we all need. I observe many people just want to “live and let live” when this theory on life is false, its almost saying “live and let die” as the word teaches us to strengthen one another and encourage, the principle is the complete opposite almost without further study.

    * As for people not respecting pay raises, bonus, and the such. I surely hope it wasn’t anyone I know, on your staff! I have a firm respect for the such, my previous job was like working for a slave driver\watchman and now I have minimal supervision now. My work ethic has slacked a little but I still try to uphold the values I recieved with time, money, and discipline. I had a conversation with someone about work and rewards, my response “Most people today work for themselves not the business. Employees feel they are basically employing their employer. Today you dont see many employees generally concerned for the welfare of the business. When the ship takes on water, they bail out and run elsewhere, leaving the captain and crew in a bind. Its your time and quality of work that really makes a business what it is, its that time you invest the builds the job security you need and want. You do reap what you soe, if you invest you will be rewards later as your business grows, and your superiors will notice your investments and rewards will be given.”

    I think this can be contributed to the slack in welfare and job placement. I see more and more people struggle in the low income sector, only because they make poor decisions on the job. Only because there truely is no risk for them, they could simply move on to another job “Job bouncers”. Now if you took a salary or career person who makes a significant amount more than the common paying job, they feel more “special” or entitled/empowered to do more. In some cases this power fades as the desire and greed kicks in and they lose focus on what got them there.

    * When you mention people getting upset about being corrected, I feel its a mind set issue. Some are so full of pride they feel they are getting beat up. Other may suffer from a intellectual understanding and may get intimidate and therefore “lose face” and feel rejected or shunned due to their ignorance. Its hard to constructively correct someone. I have seen many forms of constructive critics in my time. There are a few different types, but the most destructive kind to me are the ones who focus on negative traits and try to point them out and tell you what you should do with your life. In my career I get alot of critism on my degree (AA only), it not that I already know I should pursue a higher degree, but I have made decisions in life that makes it harder for me to seek a masters degree. Its that type of critism that sometimes feels destructive because it cuts into so many different wounds – life choices, life style, personal stuff – that I really cant reverse now, without dropping everything and becoming a student. Its a slow process and I have plans to pursue a BA degree come August, only if I am capable of handling it.

    I think what I am trying to say is some people lose what others are trying to speak into their life, its not that the person is trying to tear me down, but instead talk me into enhancing my life. They mean well, but probobally could have handled it with more finesse.

    Well thats enough I got dry mouth from typing so much!

  2. pastor eric , we so need this to be talked about .it is so sad to be & my family the lack of respect in the world that we continue to see & experince more & more.it deeply saddens me that this is soooo common now days & only getting worse.it’s not always a bad thing being corrected.(sometimes we need that )

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